From My Heart to Your Heart,
May we recognize the Divine Love's presence.
May we see each other as One.
My Dear One,
Is there someone in your life, a friend or relative, whom you find it difficult to love?
Perhaps this person was unkind to you, even bullied or abused you in the past.
When you think about this person, love is not what you feel. You may feel anger, rage, even hatred. You may have other strong uncomfortable feelings that come up as well.
What is holding you stuck in these old feelings?
How can you release them and move into a space of love?
After all, when you feel these feelings, the other person isn't feeling them.
It's YOU who are being held in the chains of old pains and old emotions.
One of my mother's sisters died recently. Even tho' I've know for years and years that she hurt me deeply when I was a child, I was not motivated to address my feelings about her. Instead, I've just avoided her for decades.
Now, she's in spirit and I find that I cannot remember even one kind or generous thing that she did for me or anyone else. My heart is full of pain, not love.
This woman was a bully. I have clear memories of her bullying her husband. "Honey, drop dead!" she would say to this gentle soul.
She bullied her eldest son into believing he was stupid, even though he was of average intelligence. Can you imagine how this affected his life?
She bullied her daughter into becoming a chain smoker.
She bullied her two other sons until one of them moved 3,000 miles away just to feel free of her.
She bullied me, too, even though I wasn't her own child.
Every time she visited us or we visited her family, she was horrible to me. I used to hide in my bedroom when she came to our home until my mother would drag me out to greet her and her family.
So now she's in spirit, and I struggle to find some way to forgive her so that I no longer am burdened by my feelings.
At first, my ego kicked in, and I became mean.
I began imagining her Life Review in the spirit realm.
"Well, well," I said to her in spirit. "Finally you will finally learn how much you have hurt others. You will feel their pain yourself. Good. Long overdue!"
These thoughts carried no compassion at all.
Observing myself behaving this way, I was determined to make a change in how I felt. But what could I do?
When I find I cannot feel love for someone, I know that the problem is mine and that the limitation is inside me.
If I just blame the other person, nothing will change.
If I own up to my feelings and ask for higher guidance to heal myself, to forgive myself for having this person in my life, I will eventually become free.
When I remember that I'm the one who must change, then I'm ready to step forward and make those changes.
I remembered that people who are bullies and abusers have been bullied and abused as children themselves.
They are IN PAIN!
Children Learn What They Live.
When children are bullied and abused, they often become bullies and abusers, especially as adults.
When children are bullied, they are small and they feel even smaller. They feel they have no power, and often that is the reality of their situation.
When they grow up and become physically bigger and stronger, they rationalize that it's their turn to wield the power.
Some of them actually go into a trance state when they abuse others - the same trance state that they used in childhood to escape the abuse they were receiving.
Remembering these things and asking my I Am Presence to help me release my negative feelings about my aunt shifted me completely.
Within 24 hours, I could think about her and feel compassion. I could say to myself, "She must have been in terrible pain all her life to treat others so badly, especially the people she loved the most: her husband and children."
I now feel free from my old resentments towards my aunt, and I wish her well.
When I am completely free of all my old, dense emotional patterns, I'll be able to love everyone.
Some of the masters say that this is the greatest spiritual practice:
To "Love Everyone" I must find a way to love myself fully, without judgment or limitation, without guilt or remorse.
When I shifted my perspective, I became able to see this lesson as a gift from my departed aunt.
It allowed me to feel forgiveness and love for her.
So this is my Love Letter.
I'm sending this Love Letter to my aunt in spirit and to myself, here on Earth.
I'm also sending Love to you and everyone else still finding their way through the jungles of Third Dimensional Density.
There IS Light at the end of the Path.
And most importantly,
there is Love all along the Way.